- Stress is when a physiological response is elicited from an external stimuli.
→ This means when a stressful situation (the external stimuli) is presented to you, it causes a (physiological) response from within your mind and body, which can be both psychological and physiological. The stress can also be short term or long term.
When most of us tend to think of stress we like to see it as a feeling similar to worry. Contrary to this belief, stress is not just a feeling and can cause harm if we allow our bodies to remain in the state of stress for too long. If a person is under constant stress, it can actually affect and change a person's whole biological and psychological state.
The Two Types Of Stress:
As most of us already know, stress is not always bad. There are actually two different types of stress that each of us experience, one is caused by positive events and the other is caused by negative events..
EUSTRESS- stress that is caused by a positive event. For example, the stress that occurs while watching a scary movie, riding a roller coaster, or getting a job promotion.
DISTRESS- stress that is caused by a negative event. For example, the stress that occurs from the loss of a loved one, getting hurt, or losing a job.
Hans Selye's General Adaptation Syndrome:
The effect that stress can have on the body was first described by Hungarian scientist Hans Seyle in 1936. Seyle theorized that chronic stress creates long-term chemical changes in the body, therefore stress could be a prominent cause of more serious diseases.
With this knowledge in mind Seyle began to dig even further into his research. From his lab work with rats and his memories of medical school, Hans Seyle identified what he referred to as The General Adaptation Syndrome. This describes the body's reactions to stress and can be broken down into three stages:
1) Alarm Reaction- This is when a person is disturbed by a stressor or external stimulus and the body first notices this stimulus. It is in this first stage that Cannon's fight or flight response comes into effect and hormones are released to provide the individual with enough energy to handle the given situation at hand. These hormones include adrenaline, norepinephrine, and cortisol. When released, there will be an increase in heart rate, breathing pattern, a tightening of muscles, and a constricting of blood vessels. All of this results in the creation of the energy you need to either fight or flee..
If the energy that is released from the fight or flight response continually remains unused through a lack of physical activity, it can actually have harmful effects on the body. Too much of the hormone cortisol can damage muscle tissue, cells, and can even lead to gastric ulcers, high blood sugar levels, and stroke. If there is too much adrenaline in the body, blood vessels of the brain and heart can be damaged, and this will increase the risk of suffering from a stroke or heart attack.
2) Adaptation- This is when the body begins to counteract the external stimulus and restore our bodies through recovery, renewal, and repair. This process is known as resistance, and it occurs almost immediately after the beginning of the alarm phase. This will continue until the stressful condition desists. Should a stressful condition continue, the body will remain in its state of arousal.
A person will begin to face problems when this process begins repeating too frequently, leaving little to no time for recovery to set in. If this occurs, the individual will move into the next stage..
3) Exhaustion- This is when the body has been depleted of the energy, both physical and psychological, that is required to fight off the stressor. This is particularly true for chronic stressors, because when fighting short-term stress, a person may not be entirely depleted of his or her energy. With the energy lost, the individual can no longer resist the stressor.
As a result, stress levels go up and remain high. The individual may experience adrenal fatigue, burnout, maladaption, overload, or dysfunction. Chronic stress can have a major impact on the body and mind. Nerve cells of organs and tissues can become damaged, memory and thinking can become impaired, and a person will be more likely to have anxiety and depression. High levels of stress can also contribute to rheumatoid arthritis, high blood pressure, and heart disease.
How to make Stress your Friend:
The only way to make stress become your friend is to change the way that you think and view it. In any given situation you can change the way your mind and body react to the stress.
I came across this idea while watching an episode of a show called "Ted Talks" Where a brilliant women named Kelly McGonigal explains her study on this stress theory. In this study about 30,000 people are tracked throughout 8 years. These people are asked 2 questions: How much stress have you had in the past year? Do you believe that stress can be harmful to your health?
People who had experienced a high amount of stress in the previous year had a 43% increase in risk of dying, but this was only true for the people who ALSO believed that stress was harmful.
On the other hand were people who did NOT believe that stress was harmful to their health. These people actually had the lowest percent risk of dying out of anyone, even the people who had experienced low amounts of stress.
What Does All This Mean?
This means that we can actually change the effects that stress has on us simply by changing our thought process about the subject. The way to do this is to begin viewing the stress responses as helpful to your situation.
Normally when we feel stressed out our body responds by releasing the hormones adrenaline, norepinephrine, and cortisol into your body. This results in an increase in heart rate, breathing patterns, constricting of blood vessels, and you can even begin to sweat. The trick is to view that pounding heart as your body preparing you for action. If you're breathing harder and faster, no problem, that's just your body supplying you with more oxygen. All of these responses are your body energizing you and preparing you.
Once you learn to change your mind and view these stress responses as helpful, you'll then be able to change the way your body reacts to it as well. In another study done, participants were taught how to view the stress responses as helpful, exactly how I mentioned in the paragraph above. When they put the participants into a stressful situation something amazing occurred..Not only did these people think differently about the situation but they're physical responses to the stress changed.
Normally, stress causes your heart rate to increase and your blood vessels to constrict. What the participants experienced was that their blood vessels stayed relaxed instead of constricting. More like a feeling of extreme joy or courage.
The participants from this study were actually able to make stress less likely to cause health issues simply by changing the way they think and react in the situation, and you can do this too..
The only way to beat stress, is to make it your friend.
All of these responses from the stress are your body preparing you with the energy you need to handle the situation at hand. There is no reason to fear stress, you are completely in control of the way your mind and body react to it.
Thanks for reading and good luck in your current endeavors!
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Thursday, 25 June 2020
Sunday, 21 June 2020
Is There Any Such Thing As Perfect Timing?
Today I'm musing about timing. I've been having things come into form that have taken ten years to manifest. My first book, originally written in April of 1996, was self published in 2006. I'm getting a handle on money issues that have been around at least that long, if not longer. I'm in a relationship that's everything I've always wanted - and have been consciously praying for and energetically working on manifesting since the early 80's.
Then I think about manifestations from my earlier years - my two kids were planned pregnancies that occurred without effort, with quick births, yet they had their own timing for being born.
Why do some things happen quickly and some things take forever to show up?
When I was a teenager I lost 50 pounds, simply by charting what I ate, limiting calories, and walking to school and back every day (about 5 or 6 miles). It took most of a year to do this, and was tremendously transformative and empowering.
Buoyed by this experience, I set my sights on a relationship, which took about five months to get the guy to go out with me. It was initially wonderful but then heart breaking.
As I look back over my different life experiences, some consciously manifested, some unconsciously attracted, and there has been a sense of what I used to call Divine Timing in all of it.
"The Universe gives you what you can handle" is one way I used to look at it. You attract what you're ready for, is another way. I've resisted what I thought the Universe was giving me; at times I'd say "it thinks I'm too friggin' capable".
But now I have a different perspective as Consciousness, reframing my experience of timing, and also of manifestation.
It's not the Universe giving me anything, it's me as Consciousness creating everything I experience in the physical.
Someone once mentioned that reincarnation didn't make any sense to them because everything was happening at once. I got the instant understanding that there is no time or space as Consciousness, so from the perspective of Consciousness, all past and future lives are happening 'at the same time' this one is. There is no linear link from past to future, it's not like going up grades in school. And if you can grasp that in Consciousness there is no individuality, then there's really no one spark of light going through a series of experiences (like grades in school). As aspects of Consciousness we just jump into the pool of life, splash about, and then jump out into the All-That-Is.
As I reconcile it taking me so long to get to where I am at, I realize that it really took no time at all. Each lifetime is just a blink of an eye. And what I've accomplished in this one is just a glimmer of the great Spark of all of creation.
As I relax into a perspective of creating as Consciousness, it really doesn't matter how much or how little I have achieved. It's all about Creation. It's all about playfully creating in the physical. I either manifest something, or I don't. It either happens now, or later, or not. I create this, or I create something else. And I can choose to create happy thoughts, happy experiences, or challenging ones.
When I shift to navigating life as Consciousness, what shows up is bigger than my little mind can imagine.
And when you add the awareness of Parallel Universes into the mix, you realize that you as Consciousness are simultaneously experiencing other possibilities within this storyline. There's a parallel self that has experienced success earlier in life, there's a parallel self that is already experiencing whatever I want to create right now.
Whatever you want to create, it already exists, you just need to step into the Universe where you already have it.
It becomes a much more fun way to experience life. And I can welcome all these wonderful things coming into my life and enjoy my time with them Now. Which is really the only time there is.
Revised 2017, original post from 2009
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Then I think about manifestations from my earlier years - my two kids were planned pregnancies that occurred without effort, with quick births, yet they had their own timing for being born.
Why do some things happen quickly and some things take forever to show up?
When I was a teenager I lost 50 pounds, simply by charting what I ate, limiting calories, and walking to school and back every day (about 5 or 6 miles). It took most of a year to do this, and was tremendously transformative and empowering.
Buoyed by this experience, I set my sights on a relationship, which took about five months to get the guy to go out with me. It was initially wonderful but then heart breaking.
As I look back over my different life experiences, some consciously manifested, some unconsciously attracted, and there has been a sense of what I used to call Divine Timing in all of it.
"The Universe gives you what you can handle" is one way I used to look at it. You attract what you're ready for, is another way. I've resisted what I thought the Universe was giving me; at times I'd say "it thinks I'm too friggin' capable".
But now I have a different perspective as Consciousness, reframing my experience of timing, and also of manifestation.
It's not the Universe giving me anything, it's me as Consciousness creating everything I experience in the physical.
Someone once mentioned that reincarnation didn't make any sense to them because everything was happening at once. I got the instant understanding that there is no time or space as Consciousness, so from the perspective of Consciousness, all past and future lives are happening 'at the same time' this one is. There is no linear link from past to future, it's not like going up grades in school. And if you can grasp that in Consciousness there is no individuality, then there's really no one spark of light going through a series of experiences (like grades in school). As aspects of Consciousness we just jump into the pool of life, splash about, and then jump out into the All-That-Is.
As I reconcile it taking me so long to get to where I am at, I realize that it really took no time at all. Each lifetime is just a blink of an eye. And what I've accomplished in this one is just a glimmer of the great Spark of all of creation.
As I relax into a perspective of creating as Consciousness, it really doesn't matter how much or how little I have achieved. It's all about Creation. It's all about playfully creating in the physical. I either manifest something, or I don't. It either happens now, or later, or not. I create this, or I create something else. And I can choose to create happy thoughts, happy experiences, or challenging ones.
When I shift to navigating life as Consciousness, what shows up is bigger than my little mind can imagine.
And when you add the awareness of Parallel Universes into the mix, you realize that you as Consciousness are simultaneously experiencing other possibilities within this storyline. There's a parallel self that has experienced success earlier in life, there's a parallel self that is already experiencing whatever I want to create right now.
Whatever you want to create, it already exists, you just need to step into the Universe where you already have it.
It becomes a much more fun way to experience life. And I can welcome all these wonderful things coming into my life and enjoy my time with them Now. Which is really the only time there is.
Revised 2017, original post from 2009
Joan Newcomb, CPC, helps people navigate the Consciousness Shift with more ease and grace. She offers do it yourself trainings in Consciousness Techniques, free YouTube videos, a weekly radio show podcast and weekly newsletter/blog. If you enjoyed this article and want to know more, go to Joan's website http://joan-newcomb.com.
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Friday, 19 June 2020
Sunday, 14 June 2020
Keep Trying, Don't Give Up, Failure Is Just Part of the Process!
Most of us on this planet are trying hard to increase our income to support our families and help siblings or friends that are really battling, or we may be fighting to conquer a habit or an addiction, and it's hard going. We try and we fail. We try again and we fail again. We give up for awhile then we try again and we fail again. After a while of this, we tend to get discouraged or even depressed. The thing is, this is very normal.
Failure is a normal part of the process of reaching success. We tend to hear of those people who start a home business and immediately rake in the cash, but these are the freaks of the success spectrum. I happen to know a lady personally who is like that - everything she tries immediately turns to gold. But she's not normal. The massive majority of us have to battle through many failures before finding success, so don't give up, keep trying!!
I am not writing to you as one who has attained huge success by perseverance, but rather as a fellow soldier in the trenches with you, failing as you have, and encouraging you not to give up. Our time will come! In fact, I tabulated all my attempts at home businesses, side hustles and wangles, and found that over the last few decades I have attempted sixty one, let's call them "business ventures." Some cost me a lot of money relative to what I had, to get going, and a lot of them made zero return, absolutely nothing. Others were mildly successful, enough to buy my wife a vacuum cleaner and take her out to dinner a few times, but I needed money to get my kids to university, and that really never happened.
But the thing is to not give up. Sooner or later we must get it right. But fail we will, as we go along, but we must just accept it and move on.
I was talking to a friend of mine today. He made little folding wooden tables that fold down flat so people can pack them easily in a caravan or camper, or even in the back of a car, really nice little tables, clever design, quality wood, good workmanship. He had taken them to a craft market on Saturday and had sold none, hardly even any interest shown in them. But apparently, that particular day the craft market was very poorly attended, and mostly by people who didn't have money to spend, so he just went on a bad day. So I encouraged him to persevere, and that he had a good product.
And in the same way I encourage you: don't give up. Keep trying. Believe in yourself - we all have something worthwhile to give. I'm going to keep on trying, and you should too!
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Failure is a normal part of the process of reaching success. We tend to hear of those people who start a home business and immediately rake in the cash, but these are the freaks of the success spectrum. I happen to know a lady personally who is like that - everything she tries immediately turns to gold. But she's not normal. The massive majority of us have to battle through many failures before finding success, so don't give up, keep trying!!
I am not writing to you as one who has attained huge success by perseverance, but rather as a fellow soldier in the trenches with you, failing as you have, and encouraging you not to give up. Our time will come! In fact, I tabulated all my attempts at home businesses, side hustles and wangles, and found that over the last few decades I have attempted sixty one, let's call them "business ventures." Some cost me a lot of money relative to what I had, to get going, and a lot of them made zero return, absolutely nothing. Others were mildly successful, enough to buy my wife a vacuum cleaner and take her out to dinner a few times, but I needed money to get my kids to university, and that really never happened.
But the thing is to not give up. Sooner or later we must get it right. But fail we will, as we go along, but we must just accept it and move on.
I was talking to a friend of mine today. He made little folding wooden tables that fold down flat so people can pack them easily in a caravan or camper, or even in the back of a car, really nice little tables, clever design, quality wood, good workmanship. He had taken them to a craft market on Saturday and had sold none, hardly even any interest shown in them. But apparently, that particular day the craft market was very poorly attended, and mostly by people who didn't have money to spend, so he just went on a bad day. So I encouraged him to persevere, and that he had a good product.
And in the same way I encourage you: don't give up. Keep trying. Believe in yourself - we all have something worthwhile to give. I'm going to keep on trying, and you should too!
Like my writing style? Check out my short book "How to Drive Properly:... and not like a moron!" Kindle Edition on Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07WPW96HD
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Friday, 12 June 2020
How Complaining Can Make Us Fall Sick
Why do we love to talk about our problems? What do we get out of it? Whenever we catch up with friends over talking inevitably leads to some sort of complaints. It could be about work, our spouse, our children, our community and so on.
The thing is because we are repeating a pattern we do not realise the impact it has on us. For most people, unfortunately, this seems to be a normal habit of conversing.
So why do we feel the need to keep talking about our problems? Here are some probable emotional reasons:
Perhaps we want to feel validated? We want to feel like we mean something to someone. I was observing my daughter and her friends and they were gossiping and complaining about someone else and I realised that it was their way to feel validated. It was their way to feel like they are part of the in-crowd.
Another reason could be, we want to feel right. So by complaining, we are saying that we are right and the other party is wrong. So by complaining, it seems as if we have tipped the scales and somehow in an imaginary way we have become right, even if we were wrong!
Sometimes things do happen in such a way where we are wrongly accused. And the other party is just not listening. So we want to keep talking about it to make ourselves feel right again. In a way, we do it to fight for fairness or fair treatment but then we keep going into the loop of complaining!
Yet another reason why we enjoy complaining is that we are trying to get opinions. Why opinions? Because we are not sure whether the problem is us or the problem is with other people or whether the problem is circumstances. We share to get an opinion and if someone else agrees with us we think 'OK, so I am right, this problem I am having is not really my problem it is their problem'. It is a way to feel 'one up'.
What happens to the one listening to the complainer? For some of us, when we listen to other people's problems we may start to feel drained if we do not know how to draw psychic boundaries. They feel more energised because they are releasing and if full attention is given to them, we are giving even more power to their issues.
If we are an empathetic person, we are in for a lot of energy drainage because we feel like the other person wants so much from us -- they want our opinions, they want us to commit to a side. I'm just imagining some of the empaths now nodding away as you read this.
If we are the complainer when we keep talking about our problems we will only keep building negative energies within. We have these energy centres within our energy body and they are mostly aligned with our Endocrine System. Our Endocrine System is made up of our glands that control our hormones. When I say hormones, we are not just talking about women's hormones or sex hormones. Hormones are chemical substance produced in our bodies and they serve as messengers, controlling and coordinating activities throughout our body. For eg. adrenaline is a hormone and it comes under the control of our nervous system.
We have all experienced this phenomenon of being heartbroken. During this lovesickness, we feel the ache in our chest area, because feeling that way has caused an imbalance in our hormones and our Thymus gland sits right there and the love sickness actually caused us to compromise our immune system. This gland interesting is also known as the love gland!
So I teach my clients this: when you feel emotionally compromised, tap lightly on your chest, which activates your thymus gland. The tapping allows the gland function better and it can also help with your immunity. Just tap lightly up to about eight times, you don't have to thump like a gorilla! (I think gorillas really have the right idea on how to live right) You also do not need a reason to do this, you can do this all the time as a practice to help rebalance your hormones. So I do this all the time, especially when I am waiting in line with nothing to do!
In my next blog post, I will share strategies on how to draw psychic boundaries if you are the listener and what you can do more constructively if you are the complainer.
In the meantime, have a fabulous week tapping your chest away!
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The thing is because we are repeating a pattern we do not realise the impact it has on us. For most people, unfortunately, this seems to be a normal habit of conversing.
So why do we feel the need to keep talking about our problems? Here are some probable emotional reasons:
Perhaps we want to feel validated? We want to feel like we mean something to someone. I was observing my daughter and her friends and they were gossiping and complaining about someone else and I realised that it was their way to feel validated. It was their way to feel like they are part of the in-crowd.
Another reason could be, we want to feel right. So by complaining, we are saying that we are right and the other party is wrong. So by complaining, it seems as if we have tipped the scales and somehow in an imaginary way we have become right, even if we were wrong!
Sometimes things do happen in such a way where we are wrongly accused. And the other party is just not listening. So we want to keep talking about it to make ourselves feel right again. In a way, we do it to fight for fairness or fair treatment but then we keep going into the loop of complaining!
Yet another reason why we enjoy complaining is that we are trying to get opinions. Why opinions? Because we are not sure whether the problem is us or the problem is with other people or whether the problem is circumstances. We share to get an opinion and if someone else agrees with us we think 'OK, so I am right, this problem I am having is not really my problem it is their problem'. It is a way to feel 'one up'.
What happens to the one listening to the complainer? For some of us, when we listen to other people's problems we may start to feel drained if we do not know how to draw psychic boundaries. They feel more energised because they are releasing and if full attention is given to them, we are giving even more power to their issues.
If we are an empathetic person, we are in for a lot of energy drainage because we feel like the other person wants so much from us -- they want our opinions, they want us to commit to a side. I'm just imagining some of the empaths now nodding away as you read this.
If we are the complainer when we keep talking about our problems we will only keep building negative energies within. We have these energy centres within our energy body and they are mostly aligned with our Endocrine System. Our Endocrine System is made up of our glands that control our hormones. When I say hormones, we are not just talking about women's hormones or sex hormones. Hormones are chemical substance produced in our bodies and they serve as messengers, controlling and coordinating activities throughout our body. For eg. adrenaline is a hormone and it comes under the control of our nervous system.
We have all experienced this phenomenon of being heartbroken. During this lovesickness, we feel the ache in our chest area, because feeling that way has caused an imbalance in our hormones and our Thymus gland sits right there and the love sickness actually caused us to compromise our immune system. This gland interesting is also known as the love gland!
So I teach my clients this: when you feel emotionally compromised, tap lightly on your chest, which activates your thymus gland. The tapping allows the gland function better and it can also help with your immunity. Just tap lightly up to about eight times, you don't have to thump like a gorilla! (I think gorillas really have the right idea on how to live right) You also do not need a reason to do this, you can do this all the time as a practice to help rebalance your hormones. So I do this all the time, especially when I am waiting in line with nothing to do!
In my next blog post, I will share strategies on how to draw psychic boundaries if you are the listener and what you can do more constructively if you are the complainer.
In the meantime, have a fabulous week tapping your chest away!
My clients call me the chiropractor for the soul because it is what I do best. I align my clients with their body, mind and soul. The end game - to live more purposeful lives. I have a deep love for psychology, all things spiritual and non-religious. Join me and over 250k followers on my Facebook: http://www.Facebook.com/BeSpiritualandrich and visit my website http://www.ShamalaTan.com
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Wednesday, 10 June 2020
Sunday, 7 June 2020
Saturday, 6 June 2020
Are You an Optimist or a Pessimist?
This is actually a trick question, as few of us are completely optimistic or completely pessimistic. That said, most people do tend to lean more heavily towards one over the other.
It is difficult to get good research data on the percentages, as people who lean towards pessimism do not usually admit they are pessimists. The most recent study I could find was in 2013 and in it, it listed 50% of Americans identifying as being optimists, which seems (rather ironically) fitting considering the standard way many of us evaluate whether someone is an optimist or a pessimist is whether they see the glass as half-full or half-empty
The problem is, that of the remaining 50%, only 4% identified themselves as pessimists. I know this is not very scientific, but I see a lot more Debbie-Downers walking around where I live than 4%. I'm guessing a majority of the 43% who identified as "somewhere in-between" are more heavily pessimistic, as an optimistic person would likely have jumped at the chance to identify themselves as an optimist. Conversely, a pessimistic person would likely be fearful of jumping to that conclusion, but also fearful of labeling themselves a pessimist as well.
You'd be hard pressed to come up with many great historical leaders or inventors who were pessimists (I cannot think of any off the top of my head). But that does not mean we do not need pessimists too. If leaders surround themselves solely with other optimists they are likely to miss the changing currents around them. Some professions lend themselves to pessimism such as CPA's, Safety Engineers and Actuaries just to name a few.
Pessimists tend to think of themselves as realistic and most things in life need a balance of realists and dreamers. I consider myself an optimistic realist. My clients rely on me to "Keep it real," and at the same time help them find inventive ways to better themselves.
It's imperative that I give each client things that help them get from where they are now, to where they want to be in the future. It would be overly optimistic to teach an 11-year old who is still learning their craft, the same things I teach professionals, who are already at the top of theirs.
Although pessimists serve a purpose in society, I cannot think of a good reason anyone would rather be one. I can however, think of several advantages of being an optimist over a pessimist. Optimists tend to be upbeat, have higher goals, and achieve more than pessimists. They are also considerably less likely to give up in the face of challenges or negative forces they experience.
Many people are of the mistaken belief that you are born either an optimist or a pessimist. I have found that each and every one of us have the ability to become an optimist, if we make that choice. It's really no different than someone with poor eyesight. They can choose to live with their bad eyesight or they can get lenses that enable them to see clearly. Pessimists can similarly learn to view things through a corrective lens in their mind and change their entire outlook.
It's rare to run across a peak performer who is not an optimist at heart. I have worked with clients that came to me with a pessimistic bent and the ones who were willing to work to change their outlook were the ones who achieved at higher levels. I believe there is a degree of self-fulfilling prophecy at work in being an optimist as well.
As Norman Cousins eloquently stated, "Optimism doesn't wait on facts. It deals with prospects. Pessimism is a waste of time." The bottom line is, no mater where you fall on the Pessimism/Optimism scale you have the power to change it.
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It is difficult to get good research data on the percentages, as people who lean towards pessimism do not usually admit they are pessimists. The most recent study I could find was in 2013 and in it, it listed 50% of Americans identifying as being optimists, which seems (rather ironically) fitting considering the standard way many of us evaluate whether someone is an optimist or a pessimist is whether they see the glass as half-full or half-empty
The problem is, that of the remaining 50%, only 4% identified themselves as pessimists. I know this is not very scientific, but I see a lot more Debbie-Downers walking around where I live than 4%. I'm guessing a majority of the 43% who identified as "somewhere in-between" are more heavily pessimistic, as an optimistic person would likely have jumped at the chance to identify themselves as an optimist. Conversely, a pessimistic person would likely be fearful of jumping to that conclusion, but also fearful of labeling themselves a pessimist as well.
You'd be hard pressed to come up with many great historical leaders or inventors who were pessimists (I cannot think of any off the top of my head). But that does not mean we do not need pessimists too. If leaders surround themselves solely with other optimists they are likely to miss the changing currents around them. Some professions lend themselves to pessimism such as CPA's, Safety Engineers and Actuaries just to name a few.
Pessimists tend to think of themselves as realistic and most things in life need a balance of realists and dreamers. I consider myself an optimistic realist. My clients rely on me to "Keep it real," and at the same time help them find inventive ways to better themselves.
It's imperative that I give each client things that help them get from where they are now, to where they want to be in the future. It would be overly optimistic to teach an 11-year old who is still learning their craft, the same things I teach professionals, who are already at the top of theirs.
Although pessimists serve a purpose in society, I cannot think of a good reason anyone would rather be one. I can however, think of several advantages of being an optimist over a pessimist. Optimists tend to be upbeat, have higher goals, and achieve more than pessimists. They are also considerably less likely to give up in the face of challenges or negative forces they experience.
Many people are of the mistaken belief that you are born either an optimist or a pessimist. I have found that each and every one of us have the ability to become an optimist, if we make that choice. It's really no different than someone with poor eyesight. They can choose to live with their bad eyesight or they can get lenses that enable them to see clearly. Pessimists can similarly learn to view things through a corrective lens in their mind and change their entire outlook.
It's rare to run across a peak performer who is not an optimist at heart. I have worked with clients that came to me with a pessimistic bent and the ones who were willing to work to change their outlook were the ones who achieved at higher levels. I believe there is a degree of self-fulfilling prophecy at work in being an optimist as well.
As Norman Cousins eloquently stated, "Optimism doesn't wait on facts. It deals with prospects. Pessimism is a waste of time." The bottom line is, no mater where you fall on the Pessimism/Optimism scale you have the power to change it.
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Wednesday, 3 June 2020
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Sunday, 31 May 2020
What To Do When You Feel Your Best Isn't Enough
There are essential factors that sustain solid an individual's development and advancement. Do you feel you give life your best, work hard, try hard, but still can't give yourself credit? While it appears to be anything but difficult to grasp mentally, freeing oneself from old negative messages is a journey of recovery which takes some serious work.
There is commonly a great deal of strain t in our way of life. We feel as though there is some kind of problem with us if, for instance, we're still single despite our age, never find another love after a broken marriage, don't make a specific measure of salary, don't have a huge group of friends, or don't look and act a specific path within the sight of others. The rundown could genuinely go on for eternity.
Now and again amidst all the pressures, we still appear to thoroughly overlook all the superb, interesting things about ourselves. We stall out in our minds and permit our inward pundit to totally destroy our confidence until such time that we detest ourselves for being not like everyone else.
Sometimes, we need other people's feedback to make us fully aware of the considerable number of things we beat ourselves up over that don't make a difference. We invest too much energy to get ourselves ahead of others. But still, it's not enough. We still want for more without realizing that we may regret these considerations every time.
We always compare ourselves to others,however, those individuals who appear to have everything don't bother to think about it. At the point when you take a gander at others through a perspective of empathy and seeing as opposed to judgment and desire, you are better ready to perceive the truth about them. They are wonderfully flawed people experiencing a similar general difficulties that we as a whole experience.
There is more right with you than amiss with you. Until you quit breathing, there's more right with you than amiss with you. As somebody who some of the time will in general focus in on the entirety of our apparent imperfections, it assists with recollecting that there are loads of things we like about ourselves as well-like the way that we live and breath and ready to clear new ways at whatever point we pick.
You need love the most when you believe you merit it the least. This was an ongoing revelation of mine, in spite of the fact that I'm certain it's been said commonly previously. I find that it is generally hard to acknowledge love and comprehension from others when I'm in a condition of outrage, disgrace, tension, or discouragement. However, embracing the above truth truly moved my viewpoint and caused me to understand that affection is really the best blessing we can get during such occasions.
We need to completely acknowledge and cause harmony with the present before we can reach and feel happy with what's to come. One thing I've found out about is that you can't completely feel happy with where you're going until you can acknowledge, recognize, and acknowledge where you are. Grasp and make harmony with where you are, and your excursion toward something new will feel significantly more serene, and fulfilling.
Concentrate on progress as opposed to flawlessness and on how far you've come instead of how far you have left to go.One of the greatest reasons for self-hatred is the recklessly determined twisted need to take care of business. We take a stab at flawlessness and achievement, and when we miss the mark, we feel exactly useless. What we fail to acknowledge is that moving in the direction of our objectives and being happy to put ourselves out there are achievements inside themselves, paying little mind to how frequently we fall flat.
Rather than chiding yourself for failing and lurching in reverse, give yourself a gesture of congratulations for having a go at, gaining ground, and coming the extent that you have. You can't despise your way into adoring yourself. Mentioning to yourself what a disappointment you are won't make you any progressively fruitful. Disclosing to yourself you're not satisfying your maximum capacity won't assist you with arriving at a higher potential. Disclosing to yourself you're useless and unlovable won't cause you to feel any increasingly commendable or adorable.
It sounds annoyingly straightforward, yet the best way to develop self esteem is to adore yourself. Pay little heed to what your identity is and where you stand and regardless of whether you realize you need to change. You are sufficient just like what you seem to be. What's more, self esteem is somewhat simpler each time you help yourself to remember that.
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There is commonly a great deal of strain t in our way of life. We feel as though there is some kind of problem with us if, for instance, we're still single despite our age, never find another love after a broken marriage, don't make a specific measure of salary, don't have a huge group of friends, or don't look and act a specific path within the sight of others. The rundown could genuinely go on for eternity.
Now and again amidst all the pressures, we still appear to thoroughly overlook all the superb, interesting things about ourselves. We stall out in our minds and permit our inward pundit to totally destroy our confidence until such time that we detest ourselves for being not like everyone else.
Sometimes, we need other people's feedback to make us fully aware of the considerable number of things we beat ourselves up over that don't make a difference. We invest too much energy to get ourselves ahead of others. But still, it's not enough. We still want for more without realizing that we may regret these considerations every time.
We always compare ourselves to others,however, those individuals who appear to have everything don't bother to think about it. At the point when you take a gander at others through a perspective of empathy and seeing as opposed to judgment and desire, you are better ready to perceive the truth about them. They are wonderfully flawed people experiencing a similar general difficulties that we as a whole experience.
There is more right with you than amiss with you. Until you quit breathing, there's more right with you than amiss with you. As somebody who some of the time will in general focus in on the entirety of our apparent imperfections, it assists with recollecting that there are loads of things we like about ourselves as well-like the way that we live and breath and ready to clear new ways at whatever point we pick.
You need love the most when you believe you merit it the least. This was an ongoing revelation of mine, in spite of the fact that I'm certain it's been said commonly previously. I find that it is generally hard to acknowledge love and comprehension from others when I'm in a condition of outrage, disgrace, tension, or discouragement. However, embracing the above truth truly moved my viewpoint and caused me to understand that affection is really the best blessing we can get during such occasions.
We need to completely acknowledge and cause harmony with the present before we can reach and feel happy with what's to come. One thing I've found out about is that you can't completely feel happy with where you're going until you can acknowledge, recognize, and acknowledge where you are. Grasp and make harmony with where you are, and your excursion toward something new will feel significantly more serene, and fulfilling.
Concentrate on progress as opposed to flawlessness and on how far you've come instead of how far you have left to go.One of the greatest reasons for self-hatred is the recklessly determined twisted need to take care of business. We take a stab at flawlessness and achievement, and when we miss the mark, we feel exactly useless. What we fail to acknowledge is that moving in the direction of our objectives and being happy to put ourselves out there are achievements inside themselves, paying little mind to how frequently we fall flat.
Rather than chiding yourself for failing and lurching in reverse, give yourself a gesture of congratulations for having a go at, gaining ground, and coming the extent that you have. You can't despise your way into adoring yourself. Mentioning to yourself what a disappointment you are won't make you any progressively fruitful. Disclosing to yourself you're not satisfying your maximum capacity won't assist you with arriving at a higher potential. Disclosing to yourself you're useless and unlovable won't cause you to feel any increasingly commendable or adorable.
It sounds annoyingly straightforward, yet the best way to develop self esteem is to adore yourself. Pay little heed to what your identity is and where you stand and regardless of whether you realize you need to change. You are sufficient just like what you seem to be. What's more, self esteem is somewhat simpler each time you help yourself to remember that.
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Tuesday, 26 May 2020
Your Fast-Acting Tool For Negative Waves
As someone who leans towards the spiritual side of life, are you picking up on some of the negative vibes that have been going around?
Are you keeping peace in your heart as you go about your day during this interesting time? Before you know it, we get to the point where we look back on it and smile for all we have learned. Yet, right now when we are "in" it, how do we tune back in to our True Selves of happiness and delight if we don't have 20 minutes to meditate, take a hike or get a massage?
It is important that we get to the heart of the matter. This process can take you there.
This is easy and works for adults and children. It may work for you.
Here is a process that hundreds of 3rd and 4th graders have learned, as well as over a thousand adult professionals. This has helped CEOs, people in management, lawyers, people in the medical professions, teachers, and more. Many people have created more delight in their marriages, relationships with spouses children, family and co-workers with this simple but powerful process. It will help us all get through these interesting times.
NeuroCalm works negative feelings from any situation. It can also help with physical pain.
As you use this over time, you will find that it becomes automatic.
NeuroCalm in 3 easy steps:
For now, bypass the thoughts. Imagine it your mind is like a talk show host that has to say something, and tune it out. As Bob Newhart said in his famous YouTube, "Stop it!" Humor helps here. Sometimes (maybe not you) we take the thoughts that pass through our consciousness too seriously.
Close your eyes and take a deep breath. If you are spiritual/religious, connect with your Source. Pretend you are sending light from the Source to the feeling and the situation. See yourself and the situation bathed in light.
Be brave and feel. Notice the feeling in your body. This is between you and that feeling, not the commentary. Yes, it may feel uncomfortable for a short time. You are trading off feeling some discomfort now for the painful effects of ignoring it. Ignoring it makes it fester and grow, affecting your mental/emotional state and your health. Go ahead and feel it, fall into it. You can imagine you are holding a baby or a kitten/puppy and be compassionate with your feelings. Here you are listening to yourself. You may notice that the feeling changes. Follow it as it changes. Sometimes this is all it takes for the feeling to go away.
Ask the magical question. (I know, this sounds odd, humor me here, you will see the results... that's what matters) Ask the feeling the magical question "What do I need to know to let you go?" Notice the first thing that comes up for you. It may be a thought, an image, it could be a "knowing." That is your answer. Trust that first response.
Notice. Notice if the feeling is still there. It may be the same, different, or it may have left. If it is still there, repeat the process.
Sometimes these feelings leave quickly and do not return. With some issues in life, the feelings come back. Simply repeat the process.
Do you resonate with this? Try it for three days and see if it makes a difference for you. If so, teach it to others and to children. Imaging growing up knowing that your feelings are your own, and there is a way to peacefully learn from and release them.
To learn more about sending light to a situation, check out Illumination by Michael G. Reccia. You may be surprised at what sending light can do.
Letting go from a spiritual perspective is liberating and healing, and the concept is one of many themes explored, explained and demystified in depth in 'the Joseph Communications', a series of books I highly recommend.
You can find out more at: http://www.thejosephcommunications.com http://www.youtube.com/thejosephcommunications
Nannette DiMascio enjoys helping people remove the emotional charge from the traumas they have carried around from their past. She also assists people in discovering two-way communication with their own spiritual Source within.
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Are you keeping peace in your heart as you go about your day during this interesting time? Before you know it, we get to the point where we look back on it and smile for all we have learned. Yet, right now when we are "in" it, how do we tune back in to our True Selves of happiness and delight if we don't have 20 minutes to meditate, take a hike or get a massage?
It is important that we get to the heart of the matter. This process can take you there.
This is easy and works for adults and children. It may work for you.
Here is a process that hundreds of 3rd and 4th graders have learned, as well as over a thousand adult professionals. This has helped CEOs, people in management, lawyers, people in the medical professions, teachers, and more. Many people have created more delight in their marriages, relationships with spouses children, family and co-workers with this simple but powerful process. It will help us all get through these interesting times.
NeuroCalm works negative feelings from any situation. It can also help with physical pain.
As you use this over time, you will find that it becomes automatic.
NeuroCalm in 3 easy steps:
For now, bypass the thoughts. Imagine it your mind is like a talk show host that has to say something, and tune it out. As Bob Newhart said in his famous YouTube, "Stop it!" Humor helps here. Sometimes (maybe not you) we take the thoughts that pass through our consciousness too seriously.
Close your eyes and take a deep breath. If you are spiritual/religious, connect with your Source. Pretend you are sending light from the Source to the feeling and the situation. See yourself and the situation bathed in light.
Be brave and feel. Notice the feeling in your body. This is between you and that feeling, not the commentary. Yes, it may feel uncomfortable for a short time. You are trading off feeling some discomfort now for the painful effects of ignoring it. Ignoring it makes it fester and grow, affecting your mental/emotional state and your health. Go ahead and feel it, fall into it. You can imagine you are holding a baby or a kitten/puppy and be compassionate with your feelings. Here you are listening to yourself. You may notice that the feeling changes. Follow it as it changes. Sometimes this is all it takes for the feeling to go away.
Ask the magical question. (I know, this sounds odd, humor me here, you will see the results... that's what matters) Ask the feeling the magical question "What do I need to know to let you go?" Notice the first thing that comes up for you. It may be a thought, an image, it could be a "knowing." That is your answer. Trust that first response.
Notice. Notice if the feeling is still there. It may be the same, different, or it may have left. If it is still there, repeat the process.
Sometimes these feelings leave quickly and do not return. With some issues in life, the feelings come back. Simply repeat the process.
Do you resonate with this? Try it for three days and see if it makes a difference for you. If so, teach it to others and to children. Imaging growing up knowing that your feelings are your own, and there is a way to peacefully learn from and release them.
To learn more about sending light to a situation, check out Illumination by Michael G. Reccia. You may be surprised at what sending light can do.
Letting go from a spiritual perspective is liberating and healing, and the concept is one of many themes explored, explained and demystified in depth in 'the Joseph Communications', a series of books I highly recommend.
You can find out more at: http://www.thejosephcommunications.com http://www.youtube.com/thejosephcommunications
Nannette DiMascio enjoys helping people remove the emotional charge from the traumas they have carried around from their past. She also assists people in discovering two-way communication with their own spiritual Source within.
Article Source: https://EzineArticles.com/expert/Nannette_DiMascio/668630
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