Sunday, 30 August 2020
Trying Too Hard Is The Real Reason For Your Lack Of Success
Don't Aim For Results Over Outcomes
I want to take you on a journey on a topic I trust is close to your heart as it is mine. What am I referring to? Trying too hard. Firstly, let's begin by examining your relationship with the matter. Are you aware of trying too hard whether it be in your: relationships, career, health or otherwise? What do you believe is the cause of it? I will give you an insight into my experience via a recent journal entry below. Sometimes trying hard has worked, yet mostly it hasn't because of the effort required to sustain it. For example, in relationships it can become exhausting trying hard all the time. Is this something you've experienced before? Perhaps you were making every effort instead of allowing the relationship to run its natural course? Whatever the case, there may be an underlying tension of forcing things to happen that can lead to an unhealthy relationship.
Similarly, if we try too hard to get ahead in our career, the energy we spend may be the very thing holding us back. How can we learn to struggle less without compromising our desire to succeed? For example, I enjoy working hard because it gives me a sense of purpose and meaning. I love writing, speaking and coaching clients on all things related to: self-improvement, personal growth and self-awareness. How about you? How do you find purpose and meaning in your life? Do you have expectations of how your work is seen by others? For example, you might enjoy being creative whether through art or music. Sometimes your work is not acknowledged in the manner you envisioned. This is hard to accept and so we try harder hoping our next creative endeavour will be a hit. However, success is seldom achieved in such a way, since we tend to please others instead of building on our success. We are not listening to our inner guidance but relying on outside influences to dictate our outcomes.
As you read through my journal entry below, note how I intentionally ask questions to get to the heart of the issue. The key is to focus on one area of your life when doing self-exploration and examine it objectively. It requires distancing yourself from the situation with an open mind. Then it will become obvious where you need to take action or not. Once you finish reading this article, I invite you to write in your journal or diary ways in which you are trying too hard in areas of your life. It may be difficult at first but remain open as you explore it since there may be vital clues you need to learn.
Examining My Limiting Belief
Am I Trying Too Hard To Succeed? What Is The Cause Of Trying Too Hard?
For as long as I can remember, I've had a strong desire to succeed whether it was related to my career or life circumstances. I've enjoyed working hard which may be attributed to my relationship with my father who conveyed the idea that nothing I did was ever good enough. Therefore, on an unconscious level I had to work harder than most people to achieve the same level of success. Tied to this was a sense of perfection and pushing myself to extremes, whether it be through sport, in my relationships or career. I was aware of the inner critic urging me to do better. However, the cost of trying too hard meant falling short of my expectations, i.e. disappointment, anger and frustration. I justified it by convincing myself that I had put in the hard work, therefore I should be entitled to success. Limiting Belief: Hard work is not a predictor or precursor to success. There were times I wanted to give up, yet I found this difficult because if I quit who would take control of my life? The universe? God? Someone else? These are questions that flood my mind as I try to make sense of how much effort it requires to achieve my goals.
In recent years, the need to try hard has improved. It involved the art of 'allowing' instead of forcing things to happen. When I force life to happen, it seldom works out as planned and I become disillusioned. When I come from a place of love, faith and trust, I can still work hard with fewer expectations of a desired outcome. It's not that I don't want to succeed, however I have learned to let go of fixed outcomes because life may have better plans. So how can I change my relationship of trying too hard? What is the cause of forcing things to happen? Firstly, I can learn to detach from desired outcomes regarding a project, a goal or a relationship. I still invest myself wholeheartedly and show up embodying my deepest self but I suspend my expectations of how things should unfold. Perhaps the cause of forcing things to happen is my limiting belief that I have to do all the work otherwise I won't get what I want. This was the message conveyed by my father which I adopted as truth. I believed if nothing I do is ever good enough, I must work hard to make up for it. But working harder will not assure me success if my intentions are not in the right place. If I am lacking in some way, all my hard work will go to waste if I feel undeserving. The key is to work efficiently and reframe my relationship of receiving and deserving. When I let go of fixed outcomes and give myself entirely to the undertaking, everything I ever need will show up in its own time.
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Saturday, 29 August 2020
Your Focus Keeps You On Track and Amps Up Your Productivity
Your focus and effectiveness are inextricably linked.
Indeed, time management tips, no matter how well-grounded they may be, are only as effective as your capacity to focus and follow-through.
So, your focus is a powerful productivity tool.
But that's not all. Your focus actually helps you restore your energy and free your creativity, too.
Staying on Track
In our information-saturated world, you can practically hear the battle being waged for your attention as an incessant buzzing in your head. Concentration can be difficult to come by, let alone sustain. Yet your focus is one of the most remarkable inherent strengths you can ever develop.
So, would you like some support around staying on task and on track? Read on...
Your focus is about you...
It is really all about your quality of relationship with yourself. Whenever you need the motivation to calm your mind and concentrate, recall these three key advantages you will always gain when you focus:
Whatever you are doing is enhanced.
You are more present in your life.
No time is required; there is always enough time to sharpen your focus.
This is about quality, not quantity. When you are centered you are bringing yourself fully to each of your moments and getting the most from what your moments hold. An hour is still an hour, whether you are present to it or not - but the content of that hour is essentially different when you are engaged as your fully attentive self.
What can your focus do?
So, let's deepen our appreciation of what this powerful and transformative time tool brings us by looking more specifically at what your focus can do for you. It can:
Transform Your Relationship With Time. Your anxieties about the future melt away because you fully inhabit the moment you are in. This is the rich experience of centuries of meditation practice, worldwide. You can trust it. When you are in the flow of the present moment, you experience the power that is always yours. You direct your inner relation-ship, with the rudder and sail in your hands. You attune yourself to life's winds and waves, and feel fully alive as you steer with increasing skill! The feeling of inner safety that comes when you fully occupy the moment cannot be matched.
Free You From Time-Consuming Past Scripts. Each of us carries stories from our past, created when we had limited understanding. Formulas we once thought kept us safe may now simply slow us down. So, how can you gain the perspective to step clear from old time traps? The ability to silence inner chatter and closely observe what surrounds you is an essential first step. As the Zen master instructs the student: "Attention... Attention... Attention... "
But that's not all...
Clarify Your Perceptions and Enhance Your Productivity. The less distracted you are, the more energy you direct to your task. Watch your effectiveness grow. The next time you start to feel scattered, breathe from your belly and warmly tell yourself that you can do one thing well. What about those urgent imperatives that vie for your attention? Write down whatever is distracting you. Promise yourself that when your task is completed, you can attend to that matter.
Increase Your Confidence. Nothing can match the feeling you give yourself by letting yourself experience the centered, relaxed, receptive self-intimacy that focused activity brings. By exercising positive control over your mind and your time, you immerse yourself in the flow of the present moment. Confidence grows organically when you direct your best energies to the task at hand.
And there's more...
Nurture Your Creativity. Do you question how creative you can be? As you cultivate your focus, new avenues of inner communication open up to you. Only when you silence the chattering that surrounds you can your wise and quiet voice of intuition be heard. Experiment with simply focusing within, on the effortless rising and falling of your breath. Let thoughts bubble up, and see which ones catch the light.
Continually Develop Your Skills. As you let yourself experience the satisfaction of being fully in the moment, you become less and less vulnerable to the nagging illusion that there is something outside of yourself that you 'need.' This encourages a rising spiral of self-reference, enabling you to direct your energy ever more skillfully.
In the end, focus, which takes no time, will actually give you time because it increases your power, satisfaction, confidence, and productivity. It allows you to pour your best energies into what you do right now, and watch them multiply.
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Friday, 28 August 2020
Personal FInancial Planning: Will You Rent, Or Own, Your Stocks?
Although, very few, either realize it, or will admit it, many people seem to approach, investing in stocks, in a rather, short - term, rather than longer - run manner, and mind - set! When you invest, will you do so, as if you are renting, or owning the stocks, you purchase? In most instances, those, who seek quality companies, rather than seeking, some, get - rich - quick, approach, minimize their personal risk (in the long - term), as well as, if done, wisely, get a better overall rate of return, over - time! With that in mind, this article will attempt to, briefly, consider, examine, review, and discuss, what this means and represents, and the potential risks and ramifications, etc.
1. Constant trading/ turnover, versus, buy - and - hold: Some people turn - over their portfolios, far more often, than others. While, in the short - run, this may deliver profits, etc, it often, fares less well, over a longer - period, with expenses, market - shifts, changing economic times, etc, taken into consideration! However, the buy - and - hold, approach, generally requires far more homework, study, and consideration, in order to thoroughly, consider, whether the right type of company, is being chosen!
2. Doing due diligence: A wise, educated, prepared investor, generally, does best! When one does his due diligence, he maximizes the possibilities. Choosing a quality, wiser course of action, requires excellent dedication to due diligence, and a commitment to avoid, proceeding, in a hasty way! Consider management, industry, corporate dedications, etc, and proceed, wisely!
3. Long - term, proactive, versus, impulsive and/ or reactive: Consider fully, up - front, what you seek, and identify, those companies, which might best serve your needs, goals, and priorities. Be thorough, demanding, but, also, patient! Avoiding choosing, based on rumors, feelings, tips, or short - term fads, or other impulses, etc, and, rather, proactively, carefully, choose, wisely, for the longer - term!
4. Evaluating the company, versus the overall market: Beware of market - timing, but, rather, pay far more attention to the specific company, instead of the overall market! When you avoid, over - considering, the short - term, and the inevitable market swings, you minimize speculative risks, etc! Fully research, all aspects of the subject corporation, know about its management, history, plans for the future, relevance, and the strategic, as well as action plans, and choose, wisely!
In most cases, most people, over - time, do much better, when they opt for the longer - term approach, instead of the shorter - one. Are you ready, willing, and able, to become a wiser investor?
Richard has owned businesses, been a COO, CEO, Director of Development, financial/ business consultant, professionally run events, consulted to thousands of leaders, conducted personal development seminars, for 4 decades. Rich has written three books and thousands of articles. Website: http://plan2lead.net and LIKE the Facebook page for planning: http://facebook.com/Plan2lead
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Thursday, 27 August 2020
We All Love To Win, But, Who Loves To Train?
We all love when the action is going well, and we are genuinely doing something productive. When things are not so active and we have to train for the next time we are in the action and get to when the action is going well, What then?
That is what this article addresses.
In reality, there are the conditions of up, down and sideways or in-between backward or forward. In short, there are all directions. If we really want to gain something out of reality, we must love the training process as well as the fulfilling end or it means nothing except empty effort like a job we hate, yet make a living at.
So, think for a moment in an awake way: What do I want to do in life that I love the process and end of?
Recently, I thought this way about my life and had the chance to think about it all deeply. Especially in this "Corona Virus time of semi-enforced isolation and social distancing", I have had the chance to do some deep work on myself. Also, I do not look on being generally alone at times as a negative thing. This time of "lockdown" has actually been very positive. This time has even enriched and bettered my understanding of myself. When done right, though, is that not what all training and preparation that is proper does though? Is that not a reality for all who love the process as well as the results?
Personally to the last two questions, I can genuinely say yes. Although most people who make livings at jobs they do not like or even care for except for the paycheck and "getting by" say an unconscious "no" with a depressed and subliminal shrug that does not seem to care about what happens with their goals, realities or genuine desires. Indeed, though, everyone knows the reality of the situation whatever the answer, some admit it deeply, some want to do the "forget it" in a shallow way, but, all have to admit: Without the work, without the things we have to do, we do not get what we want even in a small way. Those who are more conscious want to enjoy the process of the work as well as getting what is wanted, and the fully conscious want it all to be desirable, enjoyable and meaningful to themselves understanding that when reality works, it works at all levels harmoniously in down time, up time, and between times. Consciousness is a choice to take a road in reality mostly, not a given static condition in any way. Indeed, the blessing of consciousness is the choice to take a desirable action instead of taking what is given or doled out "naturally" or "taking what is given without your desire or control."
After all, in the senses I am mentioning, determining for yourself what you desire and what action to take is the essence of freedom and success, nothing else is better in that sense.
My name is Joshua Clayton, I am a freelance writer based in Inglewood, California. I also write under a few pen-names and aliases, but Joshua Clayton is my real name, and I write by that for the most part now. I am a philosophical writer and objective thinker and honest action taker. I also work at a senior center in Gardena, California as my day job, among other things, but primarily I am a writer.
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Wednesday, 26 August 2020
How to Become Rich While You Are Still Young
I would like to edit the topic question: How can I get rich on my own while I am still young? One can get rich through inheritance as well. Therefore, I'm not considering inherited wealth. How do you create wealth on your own? It's not easy. You will have to work really hard. If luck favors, you will be rich sooner. Luck, I mean favorable conditions.
The difficult part: The rule of compound rate of growth and the initial point of your trajectory.
Zero never gives you growth. Whatever the rate of growth you apply zero always remains zero. First, you have to enter into the positive zone. The initial amount is the biggest impact on your wealth. Therefore, you have to earn this big initial amount at the earliest. For example, you invest $1 at a compound rate of 10%, approximately after 14 years it will become $4, at the end of 21.5 years it will become $8. You will be rich by $8. At the same time, if your initial investment is $1,000,000, you will get $8,000,000 at the end of 21.5 years at 10% compound rate (800% of initial investment). The co-ordinate point from where your trajectory takes place is very important.
Wise investment will make you rich:
If you are able to get a higher rate of growth you will get rich sooner. In the previous example we considered only 10% compounded growth. In fact, you can get higher rate if you invest your money wisely. When I was young I invested in a mutual fund (tax scheme, lock-in period of 3 years) an amount of $5000 in order to get tax relief. After 3 years, the NAV was 500% of the initial offer price. I got $25,000. Had I invested more on this investment I would have been rich at 28. That was a favorable time in life. It's rare in life. You may get this kind of favorable conditions 3 or 4 times in your life. 3 or 4, because you missed some in the past and you might miss some more in the future. Identifying such conditions is the key to become rich. In general, young people will miss out the first chance or even more as I missed. You will miss out early chances if your mind is engaged in non-financial activities. Only experience will teach you.
Short term investments will not make you richer:
Time is another important deciding factor. Accumulation takes its own time. Time and higher rate of compounded growth rate will make you rich. If you want to be rich in 7 years, then the growth rate has to be much higher. If your target is $ 1,000,000,000 and now you have only $100, then every year it has to grow 10 times in order to reach your target. That is an extraordinary growth rate. So it is quite difficult to become a billionaire with an investment of $100. The probability is very, very low. Therefore, don't set an unrealistic target. Allow time to accumulate your wealth.
People surrounding you is another important factor:
99% of the people surrounding you will make you to spend your money. My dad asked me money to invest in plantain crop. I gave him the money he asked for. After 1 year he told me that the entire plantain crop was flattened by the monsoon wind. The return he got was zero. My money was also gone in the wind.
My uncle advised me to buy a car when I was 25. I did not have enough money to buy a car. I had to borrow money. I would have got a bank loan easily. Somehow, I postponed the idea of buying a car at that time which was really an unwanted thing. That decision was good and made me richer now.
One of my neighbors was ready to sell his house and offered me a price. I did not have money at that time. I had only half of the money. I would have got a bank loan for the remaining amount. Somehow, I declined the offer. That was really, really a bad decision I made in my life. That investment would have fetched me 100000% profit by now. This is another favorable condition that I missed out.
Do no invest in stock market without learning the basics
Once I bought 100 share of a company(IT). Each share costed me 1200. Within 6 months, the market price reached 3600. I did not sell it thinking that it was a value stock. I decided to hold long. The next month, it started coming down due to some head wind. The entire stock market was nose diving. My stock reached to the bottom of issued price of 40 or 45. I lost all my money. Yet, I did not sell it because there was nothing to lose more. I waited, and waited for 7 years patiently to see the price going up to 85. During this period, the company had been correcting and consolidating its market share. I bought more shares of the same company. After 10 years, now it is trading at its previous peak.
Another stock that I invested along with the above mentioned at around 45 had not climbed even to 100 in the initial 10 year period. In the next 3 years, it climbed to 250. In the following 3 years, it crossed 1000 and now trading at around 1500.
Yet, there are other stocks that had never been able to raise their head after the collapse.
This is how stocks behave in the market. There are reasons why they behave so. You have to learn the basics.
My advice is a mindful living. Study your surroundings and look for favorable conditions. Invest time and money to improve yourself which will always help you. One favorable condition is enough to make you rich. Be mindful. Don't miss it.
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Tuesday, 25 August 2020
Making An Income While Making an Impact
The major purpose of any business is income generation. Too many of us miss seeing the most important part of building a business which is to create an impact or influence among the lives of our customers. We are too busy on how to make a profit rather than to have a significant contribution to the economy.
While we want to generate income for our business, creating an impact is what makes our business to the next level. Impact creates passive income. When you create something that helps people and makes an impact on their lives, that impact will keep the sales continually flowing.
Impact builds your brand and business. In the competitive world of business, the best way to stand out is to focus on the impact you can make, not by being a clone. Word of mouth is the strongest form of marketing because people are getting exposed to you and your business through people they trust. This is the best way to build a brand.
Impact can change lives. Too many products and services are created with the main goal of creating income. They usually don't stand the test of time. The best way to survive a crisis to have an impact on sustainable community development. By doing so, we are able to make a legacy and legacy builds loyalty; thereby, increasing revenues of an enterprise.
When your business has a hand in changing someone's life, they become a walking testimonial and constant marketing campaign. The world of entrepreneurship is flooded with hype, so when someone sees the real thing, they won't hesitate to buy.
The benefits of a business can be even greater if you shift the focus away from simply making money. Your business will be worthwhile just like other companies that have stood the test of time.
When you create products and services that make a real difference in people's lives, you separate yourself from everyone else. When you make an impact on people's lives in a positive way, you create life-long customers that become your company's evangelist.
Although huge profits can powerfully influence our thoughts and actions in ways that we're often not aware of, no matter our economic circumstances, the impact of our business still counts.
Intuitively, one would think that a higher income produces better results, but in reality, it's the other way around. When unemployment is high and the economy is stagnant, dynamic entrepreneurship could help turn the economy around. By developing a marketing niche, new firms can boost demand, which could in turn facilitate new employment opportunities; thereby, reducing unemployment.
In essence, the more the business is concerned with the community, the more stable and sustainable it becomes because of the long-term impact it brings in terms of employment and income.
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Monday, 24 August 2020
Today - What If It Was Your Last One!
I know, the title might sound a bit morbid but think about it, today is the last day for over 7500 people who live in the US. Add other countries to the results - and the number is over 150,000. WOW - and one of these today - wasn't you! Over 6500 US citizens are currently turning 65 every day... are you one of them? Well, if you are lucky someday you will be. So, Tim, where are you going with this article? That question after less than 15 seconds of your life is exactly the point I will try and make. So, to save some of your time so you don't have to read the entire article since I'm sure you have better or more important things to browse on your phone or computer... let's assume for a moment you don't have another tomorrow. Yes, you have had all of your yesterdays but today is your last day. Will you spend it on your device browsing Facebook, Twitter, etc.? Will you spend it in front of the TV watching your favorite sports team? Will you spend it working out at your local gym?
Will you spend it at work earning money that you will never get to spend? Stupid questions or assumptions? No - remember I said today is the last one you get here and then it's... Bye Bye.
So, I'll ask you one more time, how will you spend today if you knew it was your last one?
OK, now you can go back to whatever it was you were doing or want to do instead of reading. For everyone else, I would like you to consider a few basic premises. You can agree or disagree with any or all of them - your choice:
One - sooner or later we will be one of the above statistics - we are out of here.
Two - No one knows when, how or where it will end for them.
Three - You will leave here with some regrets and some unfinished business.
Four - It's only a matter of time before you and your life will no longer be at the forefront of other's lives you left behind.
Five - Where you are headed next will be related to how you lived while you were here.
Six - While here you touched some people in a positive way and others in a negative way.
Seven - On your last day you can't fix all the mistakes or failures you made while here.
Eight - You will never know what legacy you left behind you.
I'll let you come up with numbers nine and ten...
Nine -
Ten -
Life is short and fragile and it's unfortunate that far too many of us, and I include myself in this group, wait far too long to fix things, change things, do things, undo things, etc. And for many of us, we will never have that opportunity, so I would like to leave you with three quick thoughts: If you knew ahead of time you were leaving today - 1) what would you try and fix? 2)Who would you spend your time with and 3)
How would you spend your time with them?
Don't wait too long or put too much stuff off till later- none of us knows the when...
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Sunday, 23 August 2020
The Invisible Backpack - Travel Light to Travel Far
Cesare Pavese says, "If you want to travel far and fast, travel light. Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears."
We all travel through life with memories, experiences, and stories that serve as the backdrop of our lives. We approach each new encounter carrying an invisible backpack filled with everything we believe we need to successfully navigate through life. If we took a careful look in our backpacks, we would find joyful memories, satisfying aha moments, financial successes, hopes, and dreams. These are packed side by side with sadness, unforgiveness, losses, and fears. Even though our lives are filled with a cornucopia of experiences, often we discount the good and amplify the bad.
Psychologists have discovered that in spite of the good things we have accomplished, negative emotions are processed in a different hemisphere in the brain than positive emotions. Because of this, negative emotions require more thinking and more information to resolve. In addition, Professor Roy Baumeister, co-author of Bad is Stronger than Good, discovered that bad experiences have more impact on us than good ones. This makes it easy for us to forget the things for which we are grateful.
To lighten our bags and empty our invisible backpacks so we can travel fast, we must unpack the negative beliefs, unforgiving attitudes we have justified hanging onto and the "they did me wrong" stories. We must eliminate as many of the things that weigh us down as we can.
Start transforming your life and unpacking your backpack by doing the following:
Remember the Good that happens to you. Five (5) good things will change one (1) negative experience. This is an excellent time to start a Gratitude Journal or a "Daily Miracle Journal." List five or more things for which you are grateful. In gratitude, there are no limits; there are no big or small miracles. There is only gratitude. In a year, you will have from 365 - 1,825 "daily" miracles.
Brag Lists. Create a list of things you have accomplished that you can brag about. Try to list seven things. Keep this list readily available and review it weekly at a minimum. Your brag list will remind you that in the midst of every new storm that you are pretty amazing and have already conquered many storms. When life whispers "You cannot withstand the storm." You reply, "I AM the storm."
Identify the Miracle. Each experience brings with it a litany of lessons and blessings. List the lessons learned, the insights gained. If you cannot change the situation, use the lessons learned and the ideas gained so you can change how you think about it. Asking yourself how you can grow from this experience will help you find the golden nugget in the midst of what you perceived to be darkness.
Now your bags are lighter. What is your next stop?
Get on-board. Your dream is waiting.
Dream Big! Live the life you have imagined.
Remember, life is too short to drink cheap champagne.
Stephanie, a Success Mindset Mentor & Transformational Specialist, has the uncanny ability to help others break through toxic emotions and heal the residue left from traumatic experiences that are causing them to sabotage their success. She has an insatiable appetite for helping others achieve the impossible. She lives her inspiration as the founder of The Champagne Connection, Inc., the author of 3 books and the Host of the television show "A Sip of Inspiration". Her superpower: Transforming Lives
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Saturday, 22 August 2020
Wealth & Abundance - Finding Where You Are Already Rich
Every soul on this earth is rich in some life area which they can tap into in order to make other life areas work well also. How does it work? How will you make it happen? Read on to find out.
Looking at my own life and self-analyzing, I feel there is much to be grateful about - access to groceries, confectionery, medicine, stationery, photocopying and the list goes on. They are all within walking distances. And then there is access to water, electricity and gas inside our home, which we don't have to worry about. In our home, there is also WI-FI internet connection and I have a laptop from which I can browse anything whenever I want. These are some areas in my life that are really rich.
I used to be a faculty member in a private university but I don't work any longer due to some unavoidable circumstances. I have reached my forties but I am still single - never married. My relationships with the people I live - my mom and brother often become sour and that makes me sad. These are some of the life areas I have to improve on.
Where I am rich is that I have a wealthy mindset and the immense power to imagine. I never run out of amenities. Where I lack is the closeness with my own folks and other intimate people - the reason being I am an introvert; I stay silent and suffer in silence.
How can I make my wealthy mindset work to make other life areas rich? One possibility that comes to my mind is to network with people both online and offline and meet people. That gives me the opportunity to meet my soulmate. And then I can leave my original home for good where my relationships suffer.
What has this got to do with a wealthy mindset? My would-be soulmate will be happy to know I am independent and can stand on my own feet. I can also work again having my expertise. It's a plus for me. I can still have access to all the local stores in my new area and bond with the people there. I can continue to network and make new friends and enrich my life further.
Together with my soulmate, we can venture out into the world, explore new areas and settle down with a dream home along with dream careers. We can start burgeoning a family of our own. My wealthy mindset and powerful imagination both help to make these desirable elements a genuine reality.
Yes, I will thrive once again, this time not partnering with my old folks but with my soulmate. Together we will dream, hold a vision and work out a prospective work/life balance. That one day is only over the horizon and I know I can reach it because every fiber of my being says so. Ha ha!
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Friday, 21 August 2020
No Pain, No Gain - Did You Agree to That?
No Pain. No Gain.
Anyone else find that saying obnoxious? Or, dead wrong.
Okay, so I have to admit, I do not like to sweat. I detest a drippy, sweaty body, where your clothes stick to you and everything is damp.
One minute you're hot, the next you're damp and chilly.
I do realize this discomfort gets in the way of exercise, moving my body in a way that is healthy.
I get it. And, I have to remind myself that I live in a modern house, with two showers available to me. What's the big deal with sweat!
But, since when did we decide to apply this motto to everything? The belief that we must endure pain and stress to achieve professional excellence and a fulfilling, successful life?
No Pain, No Gain.
Did You Agree to That?
Ever ask yourself why you believe you must suffer to achieve success? Why you must work hard and endure vast amounts of stress to gain?
In past years, the concept was meant only to apply to exercise. It promised greater value and reward for the price of hard, or even, painful work.
Jane Fonda, back in 1982 brought the idea into prominence, along with the other catchphrase, "Feel the Burn" where she promised that muscle soreness was the result of working out past the point of experiencing muscle aches. You built muscle and endurance that way, according to her.
But, would it surprise you to know the concept of "No pain, no gain" has been in existence way before 1982?
In fact, the belief dates back to the beginning of the second century in which the term was interpreted to be a spiritual lesson; without the pain in doing what God commands, there is no spiritual gain.
David B. Morris wrote this in The Scientist in 2005, "'No pain, no gain' is an American modern mini-narrative: it compresses the story of a protagonist who understands that the road to achievement runs only through hardship." He described it as being a modern form of Puritanism.
But, let's go back to the idea that "no pain, no gain," when applied to everything, only guarantees that life and achievement will be filled with stress and suffering.
Who truly wants that? Certainly not me!
Life on planet Earth was meant to be about happiness, joy and connection. Not suffering and pain.
We are meant to thrive, grow, be creative, change, and reproduce.
So, why would we intentionally invite pain into our lives?
What makes us humans agree to suffer to live a life of meaning?
You might be thinking, at this point, "Wait a minute, Joan! But, it does take pain, toil and hard work to attain anything of value or importance. The only way I have truly gotten anywhere is by painstakingly hard work! Nothing of value has come easy, and when it does, it means less to me."
Yes, I do recognize that many things in life do not come easy, nor without putting our shoulder to the grindstone, so to speak.
Getting a bit sweaty. Pushing past resistance. Pressing forth to new growth.
However, what I'd like to suggest is that "pain" is not a natural outcome of gain.
Instead, pain is a wake up call - a spiritual lesson.
When pain enters your life, it gives you the opportunity to ask, "Why are you here? What lesson am I to learn? What is it I am meant to change or shift?"
My belief, one that has taken years to formulate, is that pain only shows up in my life to WAKE ME UP!
Again, and again, over the years, as I suffered my way through an unhappy marriage, toxic job environments, hurtful relationships, and a drive to succeed in my chosen field, I have found out in the long haul that pain was unnecessary.
Except, I thought I had to have pain to get there. To achieve. To have an abundant, fruitful career.
Until, a serious health challenge woke me up!
Hey, Joan, hello! What are you doing? Did you know there's an easier, more fruitful, and fulfilling way?
Dang straight there is - and the pain was my guide. If I was in pain, emotionally, physically, or spiritually, it was my opportunity to listen, and to shift, change, or let go.
How about for you? Is it time you gave up the tired, old motto, "No Pain, No Gain?" Because, other than a very narrow use in exercise (and, not all exercise, mind you), PAIN IS SIMPLY A WAKE UP CALL.
Are you listening?
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